Saturday, November 04, 2006

Inside, not outside

We now live in what must be the exact opposite of Qatar; Florence, Kentucky, USA!

I have opted to "blend-in" here, ie, no outward (clothing) signs that I am muslim. Frankly, after living in the Gulf for 2 years, I have come to the conclusion that "hejab" is an inner condition of one's heart, it simply cannot and will not be created by what a person does or does not wear on her outside (ie clothing).

Contrary to what many of my muslimah sisters may be thinking, no, I am not afraid to wear hejab in America. After living in Arabia for 2 years, I am not at all afraid of what anyone thinks of me. It has made me a lot more bold and able to take a stand for myself, and for that I'm grateful for the experience.

I am not afraid of it, I don't believe in it. I have concluded that hejab is sunnah, not fardh (good/optional, not a "mandatory" tenet of our faith that is imperative to make one a faithful servant of God).

Frankly, I am really tired of my brothers and sisters in Islam. I fear that the Shaitan has overshadowed the entire ummah. Everyone is so concerned with outward behaviors, to the point now where how enforcing these nitpicky codes may effect our hearts is being totally overlooked.

For instance, a friend of mine who worked with me in Qatar, Paige El Wafi, recently converted. She was Catholic before she became muslim. She visited the mesjid recently here in Cincinnati. She made the small mistake of getting all the way up the stairwell to the women's section and to the threshold of their room's door before she remembered to take off her shoes. OF COURSE, they chided her when they saw what she had done!

Well, she was already feeling nervous and kind of ambivalent about her recent decision to convert. The way they treated her was very upsetting, and she was quite embarassed by her faux pax. She ended up feeling so bewildered that she left the mesjid right away, in tears.


This is a sin, and things like this happen constantly in the community of muslims. I am sick of this crap.

Abū Hurairah said,

An Arab of the desert stood up and began urinating in the mosque. People were about to take hold of him but the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allāh be on him; said to:

"Leave him alone and throw a bucket of water over his urine,
for you have been
raised to deal with people gently and you have not been raised
to deal with them
17 (B. 4:58.)
Clearly, we can see from the Prophet Mohamed's (PBUH) perfect example that it would be a sin to chide a new convert to Islam for forgetting to take off her shoes in the stairwell of the women's section. The Prophet (pbuh) didn't chide the man for URINATING in the MESJID! He didn't SAY A WORD! Why should brothers and sisters in Islam be constantly pointing out each other's nitpicky "mistakes", when that's not the prophet's example?
Don't people have a brain anymore?
We're muslims!
We have ISLAM!
We have the QURAN!
Where is the ijtihad?
I'm done with mainstream Islam. The focus is all wrong. It's all concentrated on outward sets of behaviors, to the extreme that the inward condition of the heart is actually damaged. This community has nothing to offer to me at this point in my path, sadly.
To all of my Shia' friends out there, your community in general doesn't count in the statement I just made. Although strange at times, even with the deviations so to speak, I have observed wholeheartedly that Shia' Islam still has it's center in the right place, around the condition of the believer's heart.
I am done with the outward.
I have searched the world over for a "community" in which I will become closest to God, and I cannot find it.
My conclusion is that I must look within.
Now it's time for the real work to begin.
Basic Mevlevi zhikr, 1x daily plus the 5 times prayer.
Eyvallah, huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu.


Anonymous said...

i haven't visited your blog in a while so i have completely missed your reason for moving back to the states. I couldn't find your email address to email you about it. can you direct me to the entry.

Rockin' Hejabi said...

How about the post before this one, entitled "My letter to Sheikha Moza"???? If that doesn't clarify our reasons for leaving then I don't know what else can!

Anonymous said...

Glad you're back, RH!

Exactly the same with Christianity, of course - all the focus on the externals to the neglect of the heart. As if we don't trust the Almighty to make His own overtures to the soul, it has to be bullied by outsiders. A complete lack of faith in God, if you ask me. So, I'm done with the church, and I try to listen, listen, listen.

Anonymous said...

well yeah that pretty much explains it.